“Life is so overwhelming.”
“I feel so powerless against the stress that I have to endure, it feels like it is pushing me to the edge of giving up…”
“I constantly feel like I am not good enough and I will never be, no matter how hard I try. I keep failing over and over. I probably will never reach my dreams…”
“I wish I can be as productive and successful as my friends/ some people I know. Instead, all I do is sleep, miss my assignments, then regret and beat myself up about it later…”
“ I keep overthinking everything. I am drowning in my own thoughts that go astray, that it becomes hard to tell sometimes if I am right or is it just my anxiety…”
“I wonder if anyone actually loves and or cares about me. Or am I just a burden to everyone and they are being nice because they don’t want to hurt my feelings? Are my parents even proud of me?…”
“I often worry if I am a good person. I feel like I am not nice enough to people around me, and I hurt and push everyone away from me…”
“I feel alone…”
Rest assured, you are NOT alone. These are some of the thoughts that go through the minds of a vast majority of people. We might all look different from the outside, hiding behind the walls we built to protect ourselves. We might all have dissimilarities and different backgrounds and living conditions. But at the end of the day, each one of us has their own struggles, their own problems that haunt them during the nights, their nightmares that keep them awake…
Our struggles are not equal, but that is not an excuse for us to invalidate ourselves or other people’s experiences. You might be struggling with your self image, while someone on the other side of the globe is fighting to live and find food to eat, and someone else is dealing with a heart break on their private island… All these examples above are situations where people are in pain. It does not matter how big your problem might seem to you or to other people.
Just because someone else’s leg is cut off, it doesn’t make yours any less broken.
With this, be careful not to close yourself off and detach yourself from the people you love. Communicate! Talk about your feelings to trusted people. Never give up on yourself. To live is to fight, and to enjoy the satisfaction we get from overcoming obstacles.
And remember, TIME heals everything!
We asked a few seniors and freshmen some questions about themselves and their struggles. Seniors have all testified that they’ve become stronger, more relaxed and mature, better at dealing with anxiety… This was some of their advice to their freshman self and freshmen in general, and most of it is just about not not giving a damn about other people’s opinions of you:
“Don’t be afraid to be yourself because you’re meant to be different.” “I wouldn’t do anything differently because everything that has happened has formed me into the person I am today.” “Everything happens for a reason” “Stop caring about what other people think of you.”“People don't care as much as you think they do, and if they do, you won't know them in five years anyways”
“Take every opportunity you are given, prioritize your social life as much as education! Make memories. Don’t take anything for granted.” .
Seniors and freshmen are not so different after all. Seniors were freshmen once, and freshmen will become seniors in 3 years. And that’s what makes them understand and be there for each other.
Don’t forget to ask for help when you need it! Remember that the school has counselors available for everyone in need. Don’t hesitate to contact them when it’s too hard for you to bear it by yourself.
It’s going to be okay. I believe in you :)
No matter how hard it might seem, it will be nothing but a story in the future.
*Sending you virtual hugs from behind the screen.*
You are loved.
You are valid.
You are good enough.
You are strong.
You are NOT ALONE.