Did you know? Spring is ironically the season in which most people with MDD, BPD, CDD, SAD (seasonal affective disorder), or any depressive disorder get their major depression episodes. The National Institutes of Mental Health performed a study showing that Spring is actually when the suicide rate hits its yearly peak, and many people experience increased depression and anxiety. This peak lasts from the beginning of April to the end of May. But isn’t spring supposed to be the happiest season? When the sun starts to shine and the flowers blossom?
This fact might be the biggest argument supporting the fact that you can’t just show people with depression how “life is beautiful” and expect them to heal instantly. People with depression are usually very aware of how life can be beautiful, at least to the people who know how to make the best out of it. They might not admit it, not even to themselves. Not when they can only see the world through tinted lenses, that only shows them how life is meaningless and lonely, it shows them that nobody cares, that everyone hates them, that their life sucks, that they are bad people, that they are not worthy of love, that everyone will die or leave eventually so it’s better if they leave first… it shows them all the negativity they wish they didn’t have to see.
Depression differs from one person to another, which explains why there are multiple types of Depression disorders or disorders with depression tendencies. Depression can look like crying every night and sudden loss of weight, but it can also look like weight gain and trouble making friends, or extremely poor hygiene and lack of energy, or it might not be easy to detect at all. Some people are good at hiding their symptoms and acting fine, but most of the time even the obvious symptoms are taken lightly. If only people would pay closer attention and lend an ear then they would see; poor hygiene, bad eating habits, missing assignments, big piles of unfolded laundry, hypersomnia, and constant lack of energy might not mean that a person is “lazy” and filthy, or even unapproachable… it might mean that the person has more untold battles to fight.
A lot of people are scared to seek help because they don’t have stereotypical symptoms, they’re afraid because we live in a toxic society where even depression is gatekept, because they’ll receive even more judgment if it turns out that they don’t actually have “depression”. Or maybe because they are trying to convince themselves that they are fine, and a proper diagnosis will confirm that they are not, so they chose to hang on that thin thread of hope rather than seek actual help.
Furthermore, nowadays society has romanticized depression and other mental illnesses, and it made it even harder for people with actual problems to get diagnosis. In a generation where disorders are aesthetic and quirky, it’s all fun and games until a person shows serious symptoms of a mental illness, then it’s not fun anymore and rather a hassle and a burden. Some people claim that they are only spreading awareness and seeking representation, however this phenomenon is causing the opposite effect, and is making illnesses look like less of a big deal, therefore it is taken less seriously.
One last thing I would like to add is that depression is really common amongst teenagers, more common than people think. So if you ever feel like you need help then don’t hesitate to ask for it. However, remember that nobody owes you anything! Nobody is entitled to save you, from the world or from yourself, remember that people have their own problems and thoughts that trap them in their own narrow minds. Remember to be grateful for those who care and show support even in the slightest bit and never take them for granted. But also remember that nobody can save or help you more than you can yourself, because after all, maybe no one will ever lend you a hand and reach out because they are afraid you’ll drag them down and they’ll drown with you. Getting up by yourself is hard but so is struggling with your mental health. So choose your hard : would you rather swim back up from the depth of the dark ocean, take breaks but never give up no matter how hard and tiring it might get, or would you rather keep falling deeper and drowning, until you run out of air, and never see the light of day again?